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Originally Posted by Skeezyks
I don't think anyone can really answer your questions for you.  Especially when it comes to anything related to mental health issues, nothing is cut-&-dried, so to speak. Would it help to go to driving school? Well... it certainly couldn't hurt I wouldn't think. Should you see a therapist? It certainly wouldn't hurt to give that a try too. 
There's not going to be any way to know which of these may help until you try them. So my thinking would be to start with one & then perhaps add the other. In the long run, what may be most important here is not so much what you do as is the fact that you're taking positive action to address problems in your life that you perceive as holding you back from becoming as competent a person as you'd like to be. Cultivating a feeling of being in control of your life & the direction it's taking is, to my way of thinking, what's important.    |
Thank you, you're right it's not a cut and dry situation. Oh, how I wish there was a magical pill that I can take that will instantly make my mind free of worries and make me a great confident driver but it will take a lot more than that. Looking back to two years ago, I wouldn't even dare to get on new roads.. which I do now and I've improved so much but realistically it's because I've practice more.
One of my biggest problems is my mind, yesterday I was running errands and I knew I was going to park in front of my mom's house so all I kept thinking even the day before was "I hope there's parking so I won't have to parallel park or I hope I park well.." and luckily there was parking available. And even after I found parking, I would peek outside my mom's house window staring at my car just to see if I parked okay (I've made this a habit as well), and constantly thinking hmm I should have parked closer or let me go back and fix it (even though it was parked fine). Sometimes, I'd pretend I'm getting something inside my car, but instead I go back and try to fix my parking just to make my self reassure. See, those are the things I need to improve mentally. Fear and nervousness, will betray you to the point where you could be doing perfectly fine but your mind will taunt you and say, "no,no you did it wrong, could have parked closer to the sidewalk.. or the neighbors must be laughing". And this only happens with things I have self doubt.. I could be driving fine until I am placed in a situation where I don't feel confident in.
I will get there though, like you mentioned the most important thing is being aware of one's situation and the feeling of being in control.