I do my best to not deal with them. As in I choose not to be with them talk to them engage them. I choose to be respectful to others and I choose to spend time and engage with people who are respectful to me.

Of course that only works for ME. Others in this system aren't quite there yet.
I think life is so short. So much of my life has involved being abused, being powerless against it, learning to accept it and live with it because I was unable to reject it.

I don't want the rest of my life to be like that. I am much much happier on my own than I am with aholes in my life. I want to keep on working towards that. I don't want to be with sick and dyfunctional people anymore.
So I choose not to deal with them, not to give them a voice or a place in my life anymore.