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Old Sep 30, 2018, 08:40 AM
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Originally Posted by feileacan View Post
My guess it that you want your T to give you this experience and if you feel that it could be true then it makes perfect sense to want it. Also, good T's are able to provide this experience. I have gotten this experience from my T and this has been invaluable to my self-esteem. As a result, I don't have to be so individualistic and perfect anymore. It's not that I've cognitively said those things to myself, rather it really is different to me now.
This is helpful. Yes, you are right that my parents probably did not set boundaries. I was really good, though, and very much wanted to please them. I’m genuinely confused about how one would get this experience in therapy. I mean, it’s just some guy I see once/week. Are you willing to share your experience or give another example of how this could happen now in my adult life?