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Originally Posted by DP_2017
Not the wanting part no but mine wont do weekends either or vacations. I see so many on here get contact whenever and it makes me sad sometimes but then I think, my T has a life, he deserves time away from work as anyone else does. I can't and don't expect him to be on call for me 24/7
Thankfully being independent, like you, I'm used to doing things alone so I've just gone to my old habits on weekends and such. (although I dont email T at all anymore, long story)
I guess I would say, it's hard but give him his space, give him some free time on weekends.
Use that time for self reflection, journaling or any other things you can think of to keep yourself distracted. I think it's normal to want to TRY to push limits with people but I really think those who don't even when tempted, are often more respected.
It's tough but you can do this. Maybe try writing letters or emails on the weekends but not actually sending, then talk about it in person. He can read them there if you are not comfortable. Good luck
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Seriously, you are very lucky your T has strong boundaries. Im going through a type of hell right now cause mine doesn't. To the point i filed an ethics complaint against her and it was accepted. She had no boundaries then i got her in trouble by accident then she abandoned me completely at the first sight of personal trouble. This is after months of me keeping my mouth shut and defending and protecting her reputation. Thank God it doesn't hurt like it used to. I totally understand qanting that closeness. I wanted it so bad and i got it. When my T was on her honeymoon she was dreaming about me ( actually having nightmares tjat somwthing bad happened to me) She said no contact but told me when she got back that she almost contacted me she was so worried. To be honest it felt good. It felt really good to know that she was thinking of me cause i was definitely rhinking about her. In the end though, she was mitigating and gaslighting me. In the end she completely abandoned me. Anyway sorry for venting but i actually envy you in a way
All the good stuff wasnt worth what happened in the end