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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn
I shared about it in my CODA meeting this afternoon, and came up with a question to ask t this week: where is the line?!?!?! Where is the line between an appropriate, normal responsible thing and my codependent thinking I have to make her happy and/or that she can't take care of herself (as she was implying I was thinking)? Where is the line?
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It's hard to say without knowing details but isn't it the bolded? If having to make someone else happy plays any role in your decision-making, it's codependent?
Judging from your Dear T post earlier--making other people happy may make us happy, but it's secondary to making ourselves happy. Other people cannot be the source of our happiness--that makes us dependent.
Be selfish. Make yourself happy. That might make others happy too. Like your husband was pleased you told him to buzz off about your driving last weekend.