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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
It's hard to say without knowing details but isn't it the bolded?If having to make someone else happy plays any role in your decision-making, it's codependent?
Judging from your Dear T post earlier--making other people happy may make us happy, but it's secondary to making ourselves happy. Other people cannot be the source of our happiness--that makes us dependent.
Be selfish. Make yourself happy. That might make others happy too. Like your husband was pleased you told him to buzz off about your driving last weekend.
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i was talking with h about all of this over the weekend. we do have some good talks in the car on road trips. he said that sometimes i have offended people when i think i'm saying or doing the right thing. he said i always try to overvalue other people and undervalue myself.