Started seeing a new t recommended by old T who retired a year ago. I’m not in crises, but have some serious family issues I’d like help and perspective on.

Have met with her 4 times. She takes notes CONSTANTLY! I find this really annoying, and don’t really feel seen or heard. Sometimes she’s even writing while she replies to something I’ve said!

My retired t never took notes while I was there and was very engaging. At first I thought it was just the change in styles and I was judging her without giving her a chance. This week I mentioned it and she brushed it off saying this is how she works.

Does anyone else work with a t that writes all the time through the entire session? Does it work for you? Is it worth bringing up again, or should I just consider this a bad match? And if I stop seeing her, should I tell her honestly why, or some give some benign, generic answer?