Yep. Kinda backfired when he terminated to send me off to do DBT.

(he's my current therapist; I ended up working with him again... the saga is in a thread here if anyone who wasn't around at that time cares to read it)

I struggle with it now. I've found that the most helpful thing is to tell him what I want to communicate using my words instead, and that kind of attenuates the urge. It's definitely easier said than done, but if I can bring myself to say something like

or, like I told him on Friday, "I want to act out and try to piss you off and make you angry at me so you'll stop being kind to me. And maybe then you'll hate me too."

Then at least if I do it he'll know what I'm trying to do. But also after I say it it kind of ruins the point of acting out on it. And I've told him what I would be trying to communicate. And he knows what to respond to/what's going on instead of trying to guess.