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Originally Posted by satsuma
MRT, this sounds like a horrible experience. What is striking is that your T cried over something to do with her (the possible implication that she wasn't a good therapist, because the therapy wasn't working), whereas in the story I shared the tears in my T's eyes were tears of empathy - the thing I was speaking about had nothing to do with him personally.
I think in all cases if the T starts crying it could be de-stabilising because then the client ends up feeling they have to protect the T and censor themself, but especially in the way it happened with you, because then your T really was making it all about her, in your session. There's a good reason why Ts generally do their own therapy to work on their own stuff, and also go to supervision - so that their stuff doesn't come spilling out like that into a client's session.
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Yeah, the therapist I had after her told me that the T that cried let her stuff get in the way of my therapy. I think that’s definitely true. For months I kept asking her if she was the BEST person to help me, and if not, to let me go/refer me elsewhere, and she insisted she was. She most certainly wasn’t. She was just so emotionally invested in our therapy, I think. Too invested. She should’ve let me go. But oh well, the damage has been done. I’ve done a lot of work with other Ts on forgiving her. Not for her, but for me.