Since I am essentially now working with only my 2nd T this is all new to me. Have you been in the situation where a T had a significant different opinion on something in your treatment or have you hoped they would?

A few years ago after being put on a horrible position of watching my brother repeatedly act inappropriately around teenage girls T convinced me that I needed to break off all forms of contact with him. I was torn as he is family, has two toddlers who I adore and want to be involved with, I already have a really small family and feel it is my job to keep our family together. She told me that if I didn't contact she would have to report it as I had a teenage daughter and frequently have young girls visiting my home. She went as far as saying if he ever did anything to my daughter she would close her business and relinquish her license.

So I did it. It has been painful and something T and I would occasionally discuss after I would look him up on facebook or my other brother (who knows the situation and has been repeatedly asked not to mention him) will talk about something my brother has done.

Yesterday was my brothers 50th birthday. I tried to look him up on face book but he has now blocked me. In my appointment with Emdr T I mentioned it being his birthday. She already knew the basics of me not having contact. A part of me had hoped she would disagree with T and feel it was okay to have limited contact. She asked why I was torn I explained why I hated breaking the relationship and how painful it is. So she asked why behind why T felt it was important to do it. I explained all the reasons and included some new information that came to light last year and why it was in important for my well being. Putting all the information it makes total sense but doesn't hurt any less.

Part of me had hoped EMDR T wouldn't have agreed with T. Not really sure why. She completely agreed with T. I don't know why I wanted that to happen as I completely trusted T and know it was not something she took lightly. Nor would I have necessarily changed my mind.

Sorry so long.. if your T has disagreed with a previous provider how have you handled it??