A friend told me about this forum and I read a few posts that made sense to me.
My situation is that I feel distressed and confused inside myself and outside I'm in a place where I have to organise a very detailed trip for work and organise two other people in my home.
One thing that seems important is to remember to be gentle... because gentleness is a fairly unknown quantity when I'm under pressure.
One thing that seems odd to me about myself is that I get invited to have coffee with some people and I... am too busy, I have another commitment, I don't like the coffee.
This seems unkind to myself, but I do always have another commitment.
One other thing is that I get critical of others when I isolate.
And I'm not sleeping well for the past few days.

I'm a survivor of violence... but I think this has more to do with being ignorant about normal relationship/ friendship behaviours, or at least ignorant about finding my own style and feeling confident about that.

Also - I was refused low cost relationship counselling and I can't afford the full fee variety. It was hard to reach out for help with that, so hurtful not to be acknowledged!

Saidso