I wrote this today. Some good stuff!
Insecure at last: I am chronically insecure. I have come to a point in my life where I do not think this is a bad thing anymore. It could even be a personality trait. I just know that I constantly apologize when I don't need to, and I am sensitive to rude people in bad moods (even, or I guess I could say..especially strangers!), and people who are Insensitive! I read into things, etc. etc. But you know what? While I do believe it is helpful to deal with my personal problems, If people don't like me because of who I am, or because I seem like I "need to change," (which I don't necessarily think I do! Nor am I sure that I am able to completely change!) or if they themselves are triggered by my demeanor, that's on them, not me, and I have the right to say "forget you, I'll be over here with my peeps who are accepting of me, including myself!" I have tried and tried to change myself all my life. But remember when it was really uncool to be quiet, shy, and an introvert? LOOK AT US NOW! While I think that insecurity can get "too big" and "too much," if you've got a handle on it like I (at times, lol) do, rock on with yourself, and don't pay any mind to the haters or the well meaning less sensitive and more secure people who say "you just need to change."
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