I actually got to the point where I couldn't make it to work any longer. My H was out of work, I was struggling with burnout that finally ended up in a total breakdown. I was already calling in sick after the first of the year, then the 1994 Northridge earthquake hit & the one time I tried to go back to work (that was normally a 1.5 hour drive ended to taking 6 hours to drive both ways. That was the final straw. I took medical leave of absence to keep my medical coverage (with no pay) until I could sort out what to do. I never could go back & major depression took over & I couldn't even function. Hard for everyone to understand because a computer engineer who functioned just shiukdn't have crashed like that. I didn't understand all the dynamics at that time.....I do now.... it was a bad 13 years of my life that became my "black hole" that I remember very little of thst time.