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Old Oct 04, 2018, 07:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Soybeans View Post
This hits close to home. I do suspect that I might be using the money as part of an excuse to not get too close, to detach from the relationship and 'run'. I mean I technically CAN afford it, I'm just not saving, it's not like I'm going in debt... I guess I doubt whether I am worth the cost...
You are worth the cost, but I would also be very uncomfortable having next to no savings. I mean, what if something unexpected happens? I'm not trying to negate possible attachment related reasons for wanting to cut back, but I think it's equally plausible that you could convince yourself not to cut back by constructing a false narrative that allows you to go with what you want to do, rather than what you feel would actually be best.