What would you do if you have 2 people who have a role. I have 2 sons and 2 brothers, 2 best friends.. at one point I would refer to my sons as my oldest and youngest son. I found it could be confusion putting all the details together. Early in therapy a lot of my issues revolved around parenting and behavioral issues. From week to week T had a hard time remembering which was which. Using their names made a huge difference