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Originally Posted by BudFox
Many of the items in your bullet list strike me as red flags. Reminds me of my experience -- the therapist became a hyper-idealized figure, could do no wrong, which laid the foundation for obsessive and regressive longings and emotional dependency.
Plus many of these apparently positive aspects were actually weird anomalies that did not translate to real life. And much of it was built on contrivance and artifice. It was a performance.
I realized it felt dangerous to trust in this context because it was dangerous.
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Can you explain which ones are red flags and why? I mean I don't idealize my therapist, I know he's human and he's not always attuned and can misunderstand me and makes mistakes. What did not translate to real life? I mean I would like the important people in my life to be validating and empathetic but it just won't be a one-way street the way therapy is... I don't need my therapist to like love and care about me personally, I just need to trust that he's a professional and will do his job and look after my mental health until I don't need him anymore.