I think it also depends on if you mean acting out vs. testing them, which to me is a bit different. I definitely do the testing thing, which is also what kids do to their parents ("Will you still love me if I do x? What about if I do y?") I'd say ways I've tested current T have been admitting to having found some stuff out about him online, emailing while he was away about a month ago then sort of pushing for a response, etc. And I guess most recently, admitting to "some platonic love feelings" for him. I have an anxious/insecure attachment style, which involves wanting to be close to people but then fearing abandonment, and this is how it plays out at times. (I do this with some other people in my life, too--a pattern I'm working on changing).

I wouldn't say I really "act out" though. Well, maybe once or twice with my former marriage counselor when I was angry with/felt hurt by him, like making a comment or two over text that I knew would upset/hurt him.