i'm sorry you're feeling defective, you're not, you're you! there's no cookie-cutter time frames with this stuff. each of us is different... it takes as long as it takes for each of us. not that i'm immune to these feelings. i struggle with thinking i should be done by now. i've been seeing current t for 7 years next month (with some breaks here and there of varying length) i went weekly sometimes twice weekly for the first year, then she moved out of state and we did phone sessions sometimes weekly, mostly every 2 weeks, for 3 years then she moved back and i'm seeing her in person again, most of that time's been every 2 weeks but i've been going weekly again since early august.

you do you, what's right for you. oh and you're not a big baby either. y'know that's a biggie for me as well - i am always on here accusing myself of being a big baby. So i'm saying this to myself as well. we are not big babies. this work is hard, so hard, and we are strong and brave to be doing it.

hugs to you if that's ok.