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Originally Posted by raging vortex
today I found out from a long time friend that one of the people she knew for 5 years (and I knew too), passed away
she emailed me asking for my support on the whole thing, because she's devistated and saddened by the loss- which honestly shocks me a little, when this guy was alive, he did nothing but boss us both around and go on about how he was better than both of us- so I am trying to support her, though it's difficult when I don't feel anything myself, and she's upset over someone who she hated
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Sorry to hear you're having a difficult time supporting her.
Sometimes people boss other people around because they have their own struggles. They're trying to compensate for something they do not have or compensate for something they wish they had. Or other times, they're trying to make themselves feel better for whatever reason they have. So perhaps he was struggling with something and then became "bossy" because he didn't know how to handle his struggles. I know I've been "bossy" before because I was agitated during a period of my life and didn't want to put up with anyone's s***.
So maybe your friend knew him when he was a non-bossy person and then learned about his struggles, which could be why she felt upset that he died. Or maybe she knew him when he was non-bossy and is mourning that period of her life, because perhaps he saved her life or made her life change for the better. idk.
This is just me extrapolating, but just giving ideas about why your friend could be feeling this way. There could be many different factors involved. Maybe she will open up to you about them.