The problem when you ask people what they think is that they might just tell you. But I guess I'd say that part of what I think most of us need to do is care less about what other people say. Without trying to get you to think that now you can't just "care less" like I suggested, I think it's normal to be "sensitive" when you feel like you're being criticized, especially around therapy. That seems to be something of a theme around here, including people who criticize that others are critical, and then the chains in the critical circle go around and around.

My T always told me that to be cautious about "spilling secrets" and sharing "deepest thoughts" in therapy was a smart choice. What I came to understand about my process of doing this is that I had two opposing forces inside me: one to take a leap of faith that talking about it was going to help, and the other that I could be harmed, by the telling or by my T's reaction. I think he might have also been suggesting that to think about whether this is the right time to reveal something painful rather than just blurting stuff out randomly was a good thing. Lately I feel that most things are better when I can be responsive rather than reactive.

So I think what you're talking about doing in therapy is actually really difficult. That other people *may* be able to do it (and who knows about whether your friend has in fact done it, or at what level) has nothing to do with you and it certainly doesn't mean you are defective. Someone older may find it easier to do or maybe she's been at it longer. Doesn't matter. Don't compare yourself to other people and try to let go of the negativity associated with someone sounding critical.

And if weekly sessions are better for you, by all means do them. Spending the money on you and your health is well worth it.