I don't think you are being a big baby. It is hard telling secrets and deepest thoughts. And it is hard to trust someone to be helpful. I don't think your friend meant to be invalidating, just saying what your friend thinks is helpful for them, but it doesn't mean it is helpful for you. Your journey is going to take as long as it needs to take. Keep at it and don't compare other people's experience in therapy to your own. Each is unique and different. ((hugs)) if you want them.