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Originally Posted by Amyjay
Hi and welcome.
Sure, advice I can do. I assume I am quite a bit older than you, and come from a different life point of view.
So here's my advice... neither of you are ready for a relationship. You have to work on you and he has to work on him. The relationship you currently have with each other sounds unstable at best. Sure, you can try to stay in a relationship with him but what will happen is more of the same. He is not stable (yet) and you are not stable (yet). Both of you will continue to bump up against hard places and triggers and react to one another reacting to one another. The moment of fun and true connection in there are lost in amongst all the hard and unfathomable bits.
So here's my advice: take time out to work on you. let him take time out to work on him. Relationships aren't supposed to be like this.
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Amyjay,
Thank you so much for what you have said... Thanks to that, I was able to come out and at least wake Yuki up for the moment... She knows that she isn't ready but its her usual self to sacrifice herself for someone else and I am actually glad to have finally hear something that in a way is needed for her to wake up. I'm trying to focus on helping her improve and get better which for now she has managed to calm down but I have a few questions if you would allow me to ask...
I'm trying to help her with self love, more like with us all but I don't know what is considered as self love... I've been taking care of this body but although I feel like I have been taking care of it, it still feels like I'm just surviving rather than living... A lot of us have in a way broke down with the recent events and I've been trying to find more time of us to be alone to recuperate but I don't know what else I can do to love myself more... Could you give me some ideas.. Sorry if it's too much to ask for...
Yumi