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Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2
Hi Miryuiki, I hope it gets better for you.
I’ve often heard it said that you must love yourself before you can love others.
Self-love is more like being kind to oneself, not thinking negative thoughts against self; happy and confident with self; not physically abusive to self I.e.: hitting, drug abusing, prostituting...; accepting ones person for what they are; taking care of the body’s needs like cleaning, staying in shape, and grooming...
Love is not materialistic, but it wouldn’t be a bad thing to treat oneself, like a spa bath, or a favorite desert, a massage, a nice outfit, going out for dinner every now and then.
Taking care of ones self as if it were another person that you cared for.
Self-love is accepting yourself for who you are.
Self-love is not self-centeredness, pride, and narcism.
As persons that had withstood great trauma and mental/emotional/physical abuse....self-Love is often a mystery that has to be practiced over and over.
I’m still trying to find that middle ground....but it’s hard to when you have other parts that hate the body. Good luck with this.
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Thank you so much... I have been practicing those for a year now, and it's still hard because when I get in a relationship, be it as a couple or as a friend, I get really traumatized by the fear of abandonment.
I actually got to talk to his alter and told him what I wanted to tell him and thanks to the comment earlier, I realized that rather than putting him first and sacrificing myself for him, I should be more selfish and think more of myself first. Because like you said, if I don't love myself, I can't love anyone else. I know this logic yet it's so hard to practice it.
For now, I am in the good aura which is why I can be positive but I need to learn to take care of myself more during my dark moments... Which is rather hard because I don't know where to start and how to continue. Which makes me wander around on the internet for posts on self love, etc.. I really hope that I'd be able to love myself like how I want to love others... and accept myself for who I am... It's going to be hard but I need to try in order to be happy right?...