Sorry, I'm just going to go for it and add more relevant details I'll take down the post after if anyone finds me. This hypothetical a kid was 7 years old, car accident kills one parent, the other was not in the car or injured. Surviving parent drops kid off at a foster family in another country with a different language with no indication that the parent is coming back and the foster family was abusive and kid witnessed physical and verbal abuse of other kids as well. 2 years pass with zero contact from surviving parent except a birthday card. Surviving parent goes to pick up and see their 9 year old kid for the first time in 2 years, the kid has NO memory of the parent, doesn't recognize the parent, parent is a complete and total stranger, AND the kid doesn't remember anything concrete about life leading up to the accident with no childhood memories of anything before being placed in the foster family, just very vague details like the kid obviously lived with their parents but has no recollection of what that looks like or feels. The kid also doesn't remember the first country's language either. Surviving parent is not particularly excited to be reunited with the kid, and is very emotionally neglectful.

I just have such a hard time putting this kid and the actual me together. On paper it sounds not great, but I mean the kid ended up being a functional adult with a career and is married so this shouldn't be such a big deal right?? All the other mental health problems I ended up with like anorexia and depression and stuff is really my own fault for not coping with healthier methods right??