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Originally Posted by BudFox
Clients are expected to reveal deeply personal and painful things, maybe things they have never shared. Therapists typically reveal almost nothing and remain hidden. This is an absurd basis for trust. It's antithetical to trust. Just because therapy doctrine says this is the way it is does not mean people should trust it.
I don't care if a mechanic is phony with me, as long he fixes the car. Bu therapist phoniness corrupts and undermines the whole thing. The client is expected to place supreme trust in someone who simply never earns it. And if the client balks, they are pathologized and pressured further (maybe subtly or implicitly) to surrender their secrets. My god.
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My therapist earns my trust in her consistency. In her positive regard. She earns my trust my always having her **** out of the way so she can focus on me and what is happening for me. I am not there for a two way relationship, I do not want a two way relationship, in that therapy time I want to focus entirely on me and figuring out my ****. She makes this possible by managing her responses, her transferences, her beliefs, and operating in that professional and clinical mode to apply her knowledge of dissociative processes to guide me towards a more unified existence.
Therapy does not work for you. It works for other people. Stop putting your **** onto others.