More so talk about their boundaries. One therapist I had, the first “real” one, I guess you could say (I had a short term one before her), respected boundaries that I never explicitly talked about. She could tell I was uncomfortable about something I shared with her in my writing, and she told me she wouldn’t bring it up unless I did first. My next T crossed that boundary of mine with that subject, pushed me to talk about it, and damaged me pretty bad.

The current T I have respects some of my boundaries. I set a firm boundary that there were certain things I needed to tell her but that I didn’t want to talk about in person, only email, and she respected that. It was right when we first started, so that felt really assuring to me.