Thanks. Itīs unbelievable what stories one get to hear when visiting PC and other forums. The other worse than the other, I refer to what you wrote about you being fired from your internship and that also affected all your clients!
As you worked within an agency one thinks they should know much better than acting in such a way. In my case I was given therapy within a church setting and they donīt have any experience from that. But still, only by sound reasoning they should have understood what situation they put me in.
In some time I can perhaps value what I got from therapy more than I am able to do at the moment. I have always been grateful and still am but there are now so many loose threads and a sudden loss that mind shifting isnīt possible.
As it hadnīt affected the supervisor nor the congregation to let my therapist give me a few sessions to wrap things up I feel the whole situation is very unfair.
I donīt know if my therapist found the whole situation so painful that she perhaps thought it was a releif that her supervisor just took this decision. But when I asked her what she had done if we had been in a private practise she answered that we had perhaps moved towards an end (slowly) or therapy had continued around new issues.
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Originally Posted by Ididitmyway
There is nothing really to say here. I think, it's obvious that what happened was very unfair to you and inhumane. The supervisor and whoever else was making a decision didn't seem to care at all about how this would affect you.
I was once fired from an agency (my very first internship place) just because I set my boundary with one of my supervisors, who loved analyzing her interns in supervision. I refused to be analyzed and she got pissed and convinced the admin that they had to get rid of me. Anyway, long story short, the director of the agency gave me 3 weeks to wrap up my cases. So, each of my clients got 3 weeks to process unexpected termination that wasn't my fault or their fault. And, you know what? I thought that 3 weeks was an outrageously small amount of time for people to get a proper closure and that it was inhumane to force me to end my work with them just over 3 sessions.
You didn't get any opportunity to make a closure. None.
While I generally agree with Deejay that a few additional sessions, probably, wouldn't have made you feel much better and wouldn't have diminished your grieve, on some level, I think, being able to make some closure (as imperfect as it might've been) would've made it a little easier for you to accept the loss.
But, I also like the Deejay's idea of shifting your perspective a little. In the sense, to look at this situation as more of a "glass half-full" than a "glass half-empty" way. If you can see and appreciate the value of what you had received during your therapy with that woman more than you can see how she wronged you, that could allow you to see the bigger picture and to detach yourself to some extend from just one piece of it.
I know it is hard to shift perspective when the hurt is raw, and that's okay. It's okay to experience the sense of injustice done to you as long as you need to fill fully validated. But, while you are feeling all that hurt, it would still, I think, help to keep in mind that what you had received in therapy was needed and you wouldn't have received it if not for your therapist's actions, wrongful as they were.
Curse and blessing often come together and, in fact, can't be separated from one another. Sometimes, very painful life experiences are the "price" we pay for knowledge and lessons and good experiences that feed our hungry souls.
I know that almost every person, who has wronged me over the course of my life, knowingly or unknowingly, and every experience that has traumatized me also has contributed into my personal growth
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