I'm also a therapy newbie.
I hear you. All of you. And I don't see any particular posts as being unsupportive; I think they are all honest and authentic. Which is the basis of trust itself, if you think about it.

For me, I had to make a decision that I was going to trust the process, rather than the individual. For me, therapy is a process of authenticity. It's like looking in the mirror, only this mirror is kind.

Hope that helps. Hang in there, and we will hang in there with you.