Wow this blew up, thanks for the replies.

One thing I just can't understand maybe someone can clarify? she see's me in person and she does not have to say we need to meet up and overdue for coffee or invite me out with her (which I didn't go to) but she did, she also does not have to message me on FB saying she would love to catch up over phone or coffee, she does not have to insist on paying me back (she actually did pay me half of it) when I told her she does not have to pay me the last half of it, give it to someone who needs it more then I do but she still insists in paying me back and insists that I don't ask her anymore to help her out money wise. This is why i'm confused when people say she's using me or she's annoyed with me and trying to show me I need to GTFO of her life so to speak. Also I wont bring her to court over money, but maybe it is time I move on. She did say we are friends for life but that's so rare. Also I do have male friends I hang out with, watched UFC last night with a bunch of them. Well friends as in guys I work with that I sometimes hang out with, not outside of work friends.