Wow, things sound so difficult for you ... i wish i could have been with you when you were in the house, to help you feel safe...

Is there any possibility that you could hire somebody to take care of the rental properties for you? i do not know anything about this lol, but maybe there are people around who can attend to your dad's wishes of renting out the property so you don't have to do it. maybe that is what realtors do lol. anyway, if such people exist and your dad agrees and doesnt mind paying for it, maybe that could be your solution.