My T says she wants to rewrite my story; that I'm not always abandoned. Of course we talk about things that would be, in a sense, out of her control: moving, retirement, and death. She told me that she isn't abandoning me even if she dies. And if she moves, we'll work something out. As for after retirement, she will still see me at least once a year and I can still communicate with her. She's young, so none of that should happen. She's not leaving me. She reassures me every week.

Having the reassurance and consistency has really helped me. Three and a half years, and I'm really starting to trust her. I feel better about myself and my life knowing she's there.

DBT is supposedly supposed to help. Same with CBT. Helps you gain a different perspective and ways to cope. But I agree with the others, it's more important that you have a good T than what their modality is.