Thanks Fuzzy! I'm thinking the same. I feel comfortable with that. I'm hoping that when I explain myself we can get to know each other. Really. I feel like our relationship, since we started talking again in our early 20's (we had a really strained relationship when mom died when we were 13. We pretty much went separate ways until he started writing me when he was sent to prison), was based solely on him taking advantage of me. I understand that perhaps you really can't mature in prison, but hopefully we can establish a bond beyond what I can do for him and what he can get from me.

I have to make it clear to him that I only want to write. No asking me for money, no asking me to help with women, no asking me for anything. I'm not his secretary. We need to be getting to know each other now as adults. I'm putting up boundaries that are safe for me. I will see how it goes! Oy.