My daughter is going to be thirty soon. We got along great until she became a teenager. I thought that phase had an ending. it's the phase where they are embarrassed to be with you. They think parents are clueless. And everything you do embarrasses them in front of their friends. She's still in that stage.

In addition, we are "magically" always opposed in our viewpoints on everything. She asked me what I thought about the Kavanaugh Confirmation. So I got to talk first. I said I didn't believe the testimony of the woman. I didn't believe her story, for a variety of reasons. This really upset her. As she believed the opposite. You would think this is why I'm posting here, but it's not. I'm posting here because this unpleasant teenager phase they all go through hasn't gone away with her. She's actually unpleasant to be around, because she's so deeply entrenched in her beliefs. If you have a different belief, she actually feels threatened. If someone believes differently than I do, I'm okay with that. It doesn't de-value my own opinion. In this conversation she tried to convince me of her opinion, saying his confirmation would chip away at womens' rights, especially as it pertains to abortion. Then she cited a photograph on the internet of a baby, where Kavanaugh said: this is who I'm going to protect. Let's assume that this is actually real (because I couldn't find that picture on the internet). She said he's anti-abortion. And that is a huge step backwards for women. I'm taking a wait and see approach. Sure, he's Catholic, which automatically means anti-abortion. But it's like being upset over what "might" happen. And then being upset when others don't agree with you. I'm okay with anyone disagreeing with me, but I find it really odd that her and I don't agree on much at all. And again, because I spoke first, I wasn't automatically taking an opposing viewpoint to her.

Are there some people who don't outgrow that defiant teenager stage? Or is there some other underlying disorder happening. My mother was diagnosed with NPD and she also got very agitated when anyone disagreed with her. I don't care that my daughter's opinion is the opposite to mine, I'm just trying to understand why her opinion is always the opposite to mine. The other thing I noticed is in the rare event that we agree on something, it seems to pump her up massively. When I form an opinion on a matter, it comes from research, contemplation, observation. I don't usually take into account other peoples' opinions when I form my own opinion. It wouldn't be MY opinion if it is based upon other peoples' opinions.