From what you shared, it sounds like you need to find out how your daughter feels about things before you offer your take on things. When she asked you what you thought, you could have simply said you are undecided and then put the topic in her court where she can share how SHE feels about it.

When you are a mom/parent, often you can get used to helping your child figure things out, but then you have to learn how to SLOWLY change that role and begin giving your child a chance to express their feelings and thoughts on things. A lot of their opinions are going to reflect their generation too, and often that will differ from your generational feelings about things.


Yes, I can believe that and I have noticed how her generation has been encouraged to feel that way too. All the more reason to work on finding ways you can give her the opportunity to share her feelings and opinions first. She has been encouraged to feel threatened by beliefs different from hers, so the best way to handle that is to counter act that by being willing to "listen" to her talk first and you don't even have to actually offer your opinion either. Her age group is being encouraged to believe your age group is trying to silence her age group. So the only thing you can do is make an extra effort to at least present yourself in a way that is telling her, at least with you, things are not always like that. The truth is, this challenge isn't new, and it's long been called the "generation gap" that occurs between parents and their children.

Actually, if you look at the movies from the eighties and the generational messages that took place during the time this was supposed to have taken place when it comes to this Ford vs Kavanaugh situation, you can actually see the generation gap in that generation compared to their parent's generation as well. The movie "Sixteen Candles" actually does a good job showing that generation gap tbh. So, my point is this generation gap is always there.

Your daughter has a lot more pressure to be lock step with her generation with all the social media pressures she faces too. I believe you don't have as much problem as she does when it comes to being more flexible with differing opinions, you did not have the pressure she has in her generation, so that alone is different. So, as I mentioned, you will have to figure out ways you can counter act that, did not say it was going to be easy either. Yet, a way to help is find ways to put the ball in her court and "listen", after a while she may be more open to listening to your opinions, that will take time however given the way our overall society has encouraged lack of trust in your generation.