My own change with my mother to daughter relationship happened in my early 20's. It evolved at that age as opposed to devolving. I was certainly releasing some apron strings as I made it to 30 and had 1 son with another on the way.
I grew from a mixed political background which by the time I was reaching 30 I had moved to center/unenrolled/independent.
And with my sons I tell them no politics nor religion talk at the dinner table nor in public. Those are heated topics that can bring out the best and worst in people and a respectful decorum matters above everything else.

It raises my eyebrow when a meme becomes gospel out there in social media land. My understanding that the idea of roe v wade ever being overturned is about the most far fetched piece of rubbish out there. And there's valid arguments, statements et al out there supporting that. Too much historical precedence...

Sorry you're going through this.