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It's difficult for me to have empathy for Christine Ford, since I don't believe her. I suppose I could have deflected the conversation into something similar where I could have said the words to my daughter that she clearly wanted to hear. So I need to learn when the question is "what do you think mom?' The real question is: how can you be supportive to me with regard to this issue?
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I understand how if a person doesn't believe Ford, it's hard to have any empathy for her. That being said, there are individuals who experienced a sexual abuse situation that have been triggered by what they saw happen in that hearing. There are individuals who see their OWN abuse and to them it felt very personal and it was upsetting to see the outcome. I think what is needed for each of these individuals, including your daughter is their OWN healing and being able to talk about what happened to THEM. Some of this INCLUDES their own personal guilt about how it happened to them, their inability to trust "themselves" as that is what does take place after experiencing some kind of abuse. Your situation was hard in that you warned your daughter and as you shared she went ahead and did what she wanted to do, had her own sense of confidence which she found out did not stop her from becoming a victim herself. I have a feeling that your daughter's joining up with the many women who supported Ford, were doing so in an effort to regain a sense of empowerment. If you keep that in mind first and foremost, you can separate your opinion about Ford and focus on how your daughter is "feeling" and her need to gain some sense of empowerment as being the reason behind her need to bring this topic up.
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The real question is: how can you be supportive to me with regard to this issue?
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In how it's PERSONAL to her and her effort to find a way to regain her personal sense of "empowerment". Understand?
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I'm just trying to figure out how to be at peace with everyone.
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What I just explained above it how to achieve that.