I do not have DID/MPD, but I am out to sea on what is happening with me lately. I have a few child ego states I know of that are borne of trauma, and have worked some in therapy to heal them. Recently, I have had a new, rather strong adult ego state emerge and am having trouble managing that. It seemed like I was able to communicate with him well but it got to be too much and I sent him away. Having some space has helped. How do I communicate with him now that he is not here? How do I find him? Do I just say, "hey, where are you? can we talk again?" I don't know how to communicate with this part, draw him back, initiate contact. I don't understand anything. Where is he? I need him.

Any advice is appreciated.

Also, if anyone has any books or websites they can recommend on how to communicate with your parts, that would be really helpful. Maybe somewhere there is a list of techniques I can try?