Su isn't bad. It can be tragic for those left behind, but those left behind aren't the ones who were in all that agony. I'm also not saying it's good. It just is.
You shouldn't have to be silent because some people are dicks. Shutting someone who's in pain down, that's the worst thing a person can do, to anyone especially a bear like yourself.
Keep talking Fuzzy, I'll hear you out. PM me whenever. You're worth it.