When I know it is routine I just prep a side of me to take what they say with some form of protectiveness built in. If it becomes more routine I use some form of identification of denial sometimes directly to with a counter share. If it built with experience that I cant risk sharing that is easier I just I have my go to for that. When it is just to whine that validation isn't the most important thing all the time so as long I got my thing together and know what I dealing with then I put it all into perspective....When I can't I'm in pure hell time to so go to my cave and be in hell.