Wow what harsh words. he probably was just snappy because he was upset and worried about his friend. But that still doesn't give him the right to be rude like that. You don't have to tell him why his words hurt him just explain it isn't right to talk to people like that. I know how you feel about the triggering.your not alone...I have really bad problems with parinoa..all it takes is for someone to say something just right or to be rude to me once and it triggers my pariona and go for days holded up in my mind convinced the world is out to get me.