Thank you both for your replies and links, I really appreciate them!!

I guess what's so weird to me is when we first got together none of this was an issue at all, but then about 9 months to a year into it I started to get really weird with everything. I would have assumed it would have been the other way around, but it seems like it's getting so much worse with time instead of better. Made an appointment with an EMDR therapist to see if that type of therapy helps since talk therapy usually only makes me feel worse.