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Old Oct 09, 2018, 06:00 PM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
It’s been a week. My mom hasn’t called me. Neither has my sister. My niece certainly won’t call me either. I don’t plan to call any of them. So now it’s the silent treatment.

I don’t know if this is a symptom of OCD or what, but I keep playing scenarios in my head of my mom or sister eventually calling me, for what reason that might be, and what they might say. I rehearse how I would respond. I don’t want to have another fight where I blow up, but I don’t want to lose face and act like they will want me to act, giving in to them, as though nothing happened. So, in each scenario, the mad does not dissipate, the relationship does not repair. I don’t see that happening, much as I would like that. The only way it would, is if I am acknowledged and treated with respect, and that ain’t gonna happen.

Yes, I do take this so far as a scenario that my mom calls to tell me my dad died, and I say, “I’m sorry for your loss” and blow her off. Yes, I know I must sound totally narcissistic in this. It’s narcissistic injury, I know, I know. It is what it is.
I'm sorry that this has happened to you.