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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
I have a difficult time relating to the premise of your post, which is that you can predict the future, and because I'm a lot older than you. With life experience comes some perspective on the value of life right now, or at least it has for me, and parenting a now late teen has confirmed that for me. So has losing my spouse to cancer when he was 46, in the 4 months he lived after his terminal diagnosis, I would never say that having a short time to live doesn't matter. If how you live right now matters when you know *for sure* you are going to die within months, I really can't get how any situation requires you to just suffer now. I don't believe in suffering, I believe in doing. Right now.
Have you studied mindfulness at all? Pretty much now is all that matters. Enjoying my life right now, living how I can right now, that's all I can or want to do. I might fall down my stairs and break my neck in the next five minutes, or I might live to be over 100 in a world that is nothing like we can imagine it now. I do share some henny-penny type reactions to the climate change and political world we currently live in, but I think what's going to happen is not terribly well known however many articles on the internet warn us.
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I did not intend to say I can predict the future. Of course it could turn out far better than expected. I'd ask the same thing if I was diagnosed with some likely terminal illness for example.
What I meant to say:
I feel that (and I think this feeling might be wrong, but I can't see how) it can be that you improve things about the now and this gives you less options in the future. If I invest now in feeling better, then right now I feel better, but I might feel much worse in the future. And feeling better might prevent me from feeling so bad I decide to end my life early. Say with a disease, there are lots of people that would rather die peacefully and not get treated than to get treated, extend their life for a bit but then suffer even more. But once you start treatment, it's a lot harder to just say you give up. You already invested and are therefore less likely to change your opinion. That's why I feel that while I would like to feel better in the now, it might hurt me in the future and I should therefore not pursue it. Which might not make any sense and that's why I'm asking others where the issue in my thoughts is. I will talk to my T about mindfulness, I think we did a bit of that but not a whole lot.