ems, have you "shopped" for a group.....that's what i did for al-anon. the first one was run by a "holier than thou" woman who said "there's no place here for people who's children use drugs!".....i started crying.....but i'm a stubborn ole wench and i found one that accepted everyone and they didn't even SMOKE>......then i founded a Familys Anonymous group here and that works even better for me. so, find another one or start your own group.....they say "where there's 2 people and a coffeepot..it's a meeting!".....xoxoxoxoxoxoxo