When it hurts your feelings it’s a put down disguised as a joke. If you say, I don’t like your sense of humor, It’s hurtful and they do it again then it’s obvious abuse. Then it’s on them and they have to stop or you sever the relationship.

Your daughter learned a bad thing from your mother. She knew to apologize. You both can work on stopping the cycle.

Recently my sister told me I need to get a thicker skin because I took offense from my family’s abuse and I responded, after learning it here, “That’s what abusers say”