it very much it "what happens happens" The whole idea is that the things which you do to cause you grief will eventually show up in the therapy room. The theory aspects of transference can get hairy as big names try to argue the minute points... forget those... it's all the stuff that you do that isn't about what is actually happening... it's when T says one thing and we hear another, or put a new meaning on it that isn't based on fact... it's a host of things...

but no.. no shame or weirdness about maternal transference on a younger t

the trick is though that at some point you will need to explore it with her... it has to be worked through...