SHAYMUS: I would go even further than Chloepie. I would put the burden of how to solve their problems on them --- and refuse to have anything to do with it myself.

They either STOP yelling and running, or else. Or else would have very real penalties connected with it. Do you pay for their tuition or give them spending money? Woooops! That would stop if they don't knuckle under. Do they work? And refuse to behave correctly in the home? Then let them get their own place and leave you in peace.

You are the victim of your own softness today. Tomorrow they will be the victims, because they will find rejection elsewhere also for that type of behavior.

Just one person's opinion.

Adieu