I dont know about your family, but if i sense that someone is testing me, i will fail on purpose. My mom used to yell at my dad to hurry up and he would purposely slow down. and ya know, testing is tricky. Like in psychological testing, you have to control all the variables, and you can suss out correlation but not necessarily causation, etc. So you might be giving your testing methods more credit and more power than they should really have. Just some thoughts. Cuz i HATE when people test in relationships - my family and my first h did it to me, and i really really hate it. Like theyre so smart they can design a test? I think not.