And maybe he's just being a guy golden_eve, thinking dieting and eating salads, etc., is just a ladies thing - 'always worried about their weight' - but not fully understanding how important it is to you? Perhaps you could consider asking him outright to be a little more supportive in that area, for you. He'll listen. He sounds like a good guy.

But, yes. Talking to your therapist is a good idea as well.