I have a couple good friends I never see but email alot. But most people are disappointing. Its because of our cultural values. Honesty and manners are not in style. Maybe the people in groups are too clickish for you. Maybe finding friends one on one would be better somehow. I met my friends on forums and we started emailing and calling. They dont live near me though. I like rural people more too. I like nature. I often just chat with strangers like at the pier fishing. Im not good at it either. I have lived in my town for 12 years and dont have a friend to even have coffee with. Im disabled and people think im weird because i dont interact well I dont go out much.